In this day and age, with more liberal attitudes towards sexuality and with the wealth of information available in education and in the media, you might think that the expression and enjoyment of sex might be a straightforward matter. The fact that you are reading my profile and my experience as a psychosexual therapist suggests otherwise.
I see my work, as a psychosexual therapist, as a matter of supporting clients in reclaiming what is a natural process and arguably their birthright, i.e. satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationships. There are many things which get in the way of this, most especially the influence of our parents and society and I provide a safe non-judgemental space in which these issues can be explored and resolved.
I work with individuals and couples of all ages and orientations about any issues connected with sexual experience and expression.
At a time when we are still brought up to believe in romantic love; the idea that there is one perfect person with whom I will ride away into the sunset and be happy ever after, it is increasingly difficult to sustain long term relationships. If this makes me sound like a cynic, let me assure you that I'm not. I really believe in relationships; fulfilling relationships in which both partners can thrive and grow with mutual connection, intimacy and love. I wouldn't do this work otherwise. However, I also believe that, not only do we bring our own unresolved issues into our relationships, but also our partner is the very person who is going to trigger those issues due to the closeness of the relationship.
Couples bring all sorts of problems to therapy, but often there has been an unspoken agreement, or collusion, between the partners that one partner will supply what the other's parents were unable to give them during their childhood - love acceptance, security etc. Eventually, one or both of the partners will realise the impossibility of this (perhaps they feel burdened by it?) and will find a way of opting out of the unspoken agreement. This will give rise to the familiar issues which couples bring to therapy - lack of sex, affairs, arguments about money, children etc and even sometimes emotional abuse or worse.
In the safe environment of the therapy room, whatever is going on in your relationship can be explored and resolved without blame or judgement (Even though many couples sometimes start off by wanting me to agree with them about how unreasonable their partner is!)
In working with a couple, my aim is to enable each partner to be independent, but choosing to be in intimacy and connection with the other, rather than needing to be with or feeling obliged to be there for the other. This may sound idealistic, but I can assure you that it is possible and leads to a feeling of freedom within your relationship, rather than having to go outside it in order to feel free.
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“We are all born sexual creatures,thank God, but it's a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift”
“No woman gets an orgasm from shining the kitchen floor”
“And yet another moral occurs to me now: Make love when you can. It's good for you”
“I'm such a good lover because I practice a lot on my own”
“To have her here in bed with me, breathing on me, her hair in my mouth—I count that something of a miracle”
“Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions”
“good girls go to heaven and bad girls go everywhere”
“Sex: the thing that takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble”
“Sex is like air; it's not important unless you aren't getting any”
“All day and all night my desire for you unwinds like a poisonous snake”