For many people masturbation is simply something functional – little more than a means of relieving pressure. But if we can’t even access our own body’s potential for pleasure, to be truly intimate with ourselves, how can we hope to find a real connection with a partner? Conscious masturbation techniques can provide a meditative practice which goes beyond either solo or partner sex and helps re-connect you with authentic pleasure in your body.
Whether you feel stuck in a rut, or unhealthy patterns with your masturbation, or whether you would like to move your masturbation from functional to fulfilling, Mindful Masturbation Coaching is a great way to begin to build a positive relationship with your own body.
Are you stuck in unconscious patterns of giving or receiving pleasure, or even just ‘tolerating’ an experience – enduring rather than enjoying? This work is aimed at moving beyond these limitations, opening up understanding, and helping you connect intimately or erotically with others in a more fully authentic way.
In intimate situations (including sexual ones) we can often allow ourselves to be coerced into something in the mistaken assumption it is consensual. We can often misconstrue something we do to another person as something we do for them. This is ideal work to experience with a partner, with my guidance, but it’s also possible to experience it with me effectively, fully clothed and with non-erotic touch.
Many people have come to rely on fantasy and porn in their route to pleasure. These often take you out of your body and into your head, resulting in less pleasurable, and even desensitising, experiences. Learning the ways back to your body, can reconnect you with physical intimacy, and even help establish healthier ways of incorporating fantasy or porn with a full body experience.
The process can involve a variety of practices and techniques including mindful masturbation coaching, sensate focus, hands-on bodywork, and core erotic themes, to help shift from your mind to your body, develop new neural pathways and a more conscious understanding of how to create your own pleasure from within your body, rather than relying on an external source.
“We are all born sexual creatures,thank God, but it's a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift”
“No woman gets an orgasm from shining the kitchen floor”
“And yet another moral occurs to me now: Make love when you can. It's good for you”
“I'm such a good lover because I practice a lot on my own”
“To have her here in bed with me, breathing on me, her hair in my mouth—I count that something of a miracle”
“Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions”
“good girls go to heaven and bad girls go everywhere”
“Sex: the thing that takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble”
“Sex is like air; it's not important unless you aren't getting any”
“All day and all night my desire for you unwinds like a poisonous snake”